By: Jessica S. Bullock, Board Certified Family Law Specialist
Going into the courtroom to argue over custody of children can be one of the most difficult and nerve-wracking experiences one may go through. Being prepared is one of the most important things you can do before walking into the courtroom. Not only does preparation take nervous energy and turn it into something productive, but by being prepared, you give your case the best chance for success. That begs the question – how does one prepare? Here are my top five tips to assist you in getting ready for that important day:
1. Do not text or email the other parent or party without first reading and rereading your message, especially if you are upset. Those texts and emails will absolutely come back to bite you. Written words last forever. If you receive a message from the other parent that frustrates, upsets, or downright infuriates you, take a moment (or several) before responding. Think carefully about your word choices. Chances are, if you do not, you will regret it.
2. Never let your dislike of the other parent overshadow your love for your children. With every decision you make, think about that. Do not allow your aversion of the other parent to govern the decisions you make for your children. Not only will your children likely suffer, but your case will, too.
3. Document. Document. Document. Keep a journal of events that occur on a day-to-day basis. Save your text messages. Maintain a paper trail. This will not only assist your lawyer in preparing for trial but will also help you remember all of the events that have occurred months and months later when your day in court finally arrives.
4. Meet with your lawyer. Do not be afraid to provide him or her with detail about what is going on with the kids and your situation. I would much rather have too much information heading into a custody trial than too little.
5. Work with your lawyer to line up any necessary witnesses. The need for third party witnesses is case dependent; however, explore with your attorney whether or not teachers, daycare workers, family members, friends, etc. are necessary or helpful to prove your case in court.
Yes, court can be unpredictable; however, preparing for court is something you can control and is crucial—no question about it.